The likelihood of a teenager meeting their soulmate in high school is pretty slim. I'm all for setting standards for people, and I think part of the job of the writer of fiction is to create heroes and heroines the likes of whom regular (ie. non-fictional) people want to imitate, but it's more the relational aspects between teenage lovers I often take issue with in YA literature. The heroes are usually a little too perfect, the heroines a little too head-over-heels, and I wonder: when the teenage readers of these stories go through relationships that don't meet these standards of perfection - the standards these books they love so much have taught them is so perfect - does it devastate them?
Or am I taking all of this too seriously?
At any rate, I've always tried to write flawed characters and realistic relationships, and part of the reason why is so that I don't set standards for my readers that they can't achieve in their own lives - especially in the area of romance. It doesn't mean I've never had my characters meet their soulmates in high school, because I'm totally guilty of that! But I try to put plenty of bumps along the way.
What do y'all think of this subject? I'd love to hear! And happy Valentine's Day!